diff --git a/daemon.py b/daemon.py
index 0e8ee384b..1a53f123a 100644
--- a/daemon.py
+++ b/daemon.py
@@ -8,6 +8,7 @@ __status__ = "Production"
 __module_group__ = "Core"
 
 from http.server import BaseHTTPRequestHandler, ThreadingHTTPServer, HTTPServer
+import copy
 import sys
 import json
 import time
@@ -2362,7 +2363,8 @@ class PubServer(BaseHTTPRequestHandler):
                                             nickname, domain,
                                             post_filename,
                                             debug,
-                                            self.server.recent_posts_cache)
+                                            self.server.recent_posts_cache,
+                                            True)
                         if nickname != 'news':
                             # if this is a local blog post then also remove it
                             # from the news actor
@@ -2378,7 +2380,8 @@ class PubServer(BaseHTTPRequestHandler):
                                                 'news', domain,
                                                 post_filename,
                                                 debug,
-                                                self.server.recent_posts_cache)
+                                                self.server.recent_posts_cache,
+                                                True)
 
         self._redirect_headers(actor_str + '/moderation',
                                cookie, calling_domain)
@@ -8654,7 +8657,7 @@ class PubServer(BaseHTTPRequestHandler):
         if self.server.iconsCache.get('repeat_inactive.png'):
             del self.server.iconsCache['repeat_inactive.png']
 
-        # delete  the announce post
+        # delete the announce post
         if '?unannounce=' in path:
             announce_url = path.split('?unannounce=')[1]
             if '?' in announce_url:
@@ -8668,7 +8671,7 @@ class PubServer(BaseHTTPRequestHandler):
             if post_filename:
                 delete_post(base_dir, http_prefix,
                             nickname, domain, post_filename,
-                            debug, recent_posts_cache)
+                            debug, recent_posts_cache, True)
 
         self._post_to_outbox(new_undo_announce,
                              self.server.project_version,
@@ -19398,12 +19401,12 @@ class PubServer(BaseHTTPRequestHandler):
                 np_thread.kill()
 
         # make a copy of self.headers
-        headers = {}
-        headers_without_cookie = {}
-        for dict_entry_name, header_line in self.headers.items():
-            headers[dict_entry_name] = header_line
-            if dict_entry_name.lower() != 'cookie':
-                headers_without_cookie[dict_entry_name] = header_line
+        headers = copy.deepcopy(self.headers)
+        headers_without_cookie = copy.deepcopy(headers)
+        if 'cookie' in headers_without_cookie:
+            del headers_without_cookie['cookie']
+        if 'Cookie' in headers_without_cookie:
+            del headers_without_cookie['Cookie']
         print('New post headers: ' + str(headers_without_cookie))
 
         length = int(headers['Content-Length'])
diff --git a/delete.py b/delete.py
index 6713ceec5..00e83d33a 100644
--- a/delete.py
+++ b/delete.py
@@ -170,7 +170,7 @@ def outbox_delete(base_dir: str, http_prefix: str,
             print(message_id)
         return True
     delete_post(base_dir, http_prefix, delete_nickname, delete_domain,
-                post_filename, debug, recent_posts_cache)
+                post_filename, debug, recent_posts_cache, True)
     if debug:
         print('DEBUG: post deleted via c2s - ' + post_filename)
 
diff --git a/epicyon-blog.css b/epicyon-blog.css
index 67acfbf67..74498287d 100644
--- a/epicyon-blog.css
+++ b/epicyon-blog.css
@@ -581,13 +581,16 @@ input[type=submit]:hover {
 }
 
 .timeline-avatar {
-    margin: 10px auto;
+    margin: 0px 0px;
     padding: 0px 0px;
+    width: 8%;
+    float: left;
 }
 
 .timeline-avatar-reply {
     padding: 0px 0px;
-    width: 80%;
+    width: 6%;
+    float: left;
 }
 
 .search-result-text {
@@ -795,11 +798,15 @@ div.gallery img {
     }
     .timeline-avatar img {
         opacity: 1.0;
-        width: 8%;
-        height: 8%;
+        width: 100%;
         padding: 0px 0px;
-        -ms-transform: translateY(-10%);
-        transform: translateY(-10%);
+        border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply img {
+        opacity: 1.0;
+        width: 80%;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+	margin: 0px 10%;
         border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
     }
     .cwButton {
@@ -1149,13 +1156,28 @@ div.gallery img {
         margin: 1% 3%;
         border-radius: 0%;
     }
+    .timeline-avatar {
+        margin: 0px 0px;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 15%;
+        float: left;
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply {
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 12%;
+        float: left;
+    }
     .timeline-avatar img {
         opacity: 1.0;
-        width: 15%;
-        height: 15%;
+        width: 100%;
         padding: 0px 0px;
-        -ms-transform: translateY(-10%);
-        transform: translateY(-10%);
+        border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply img {
+        opacity: 1.0;
+        width: 80%;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+	margin: 0px 10%;
         border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
     }
     .cwButton {
@@ -1496,13 +1518,28 @@ div.gallery img {
         margin: 1% 3%;
         border-radius: 0%;
     }
+    .timeline-avatar {
+        margin: 0px 0px;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 15%;
+        float: left;
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply {
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 12%;
+        float: left;
+    }
     .timeline-avatar img {
         opacity: 1.0;
-        width: 15%;
-        height: 15%;
+        width: 100%;
         padding: 0px 0px;
-        -ms-transform: translateY(-10%);
-        transform: translateY(-10%);
+        border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply img {
+        opacity: 1.0;
+        width: 80%;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+	margin: 0px 10%;
         border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
     }
     .cwButton {
diff --git a/epicyon-links.css b/epicyon-links.css
index a45a1e4c6..e0eb5ae89 100644
--- a/epicyon-links.css
+++ b/epicyon-links.css
@@ -582,8 +582,10 @@ input[type=submit]:hover {
 }
 
 .timeline-avatar {
-    margin: 10px auto;
+    margin: 0px 0px;
     padding: 0px 0px;
+    width: 8%;
+    float: left;
 }
 
 .timeline-avatar:hover {
@@ -592,7 +594,8 @@ input[type=submit]:hover {
 
 .timeline-avatar-reply {
     padding: 0px 0px;
-    width: 80%;
+    width: 6%;
+    float: left;
 }
 
 .search-result-text {
@@ -1054,11 +1057,15 @@ aside .toggle-inside li {
     }
     .timeline-avatar img {
         opacity: 1.0;
-        width: 8%;
-        height: 8%;
+        width: 100%;
         padding: 0px 0px;
-        -ms-transform: translateY(-10%);
-        transform: translateY(-10%);
+        border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply img {
+        opacity: 1.0;
+        width: 80%;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+	margin: 0px 10%;
         border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
     }
     .buttonevent {
@@ -1523,13 +1530,28 @@ aside .toggle-inside li {
         margin: 1% 3%;
         border-radius: 0%;
     }
+    .timeline-avatar {
+        margin: 0px 0px;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 15%;
+        float: left;
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply {
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 12%;
+        float: left;
+    }
     .timeline-avatar img {
         opacity: 1.0;
-        width: 15%;
-        height: 15%;
+        width: 100%;
         padding: 0px 0px;
-        -ms-transform: translateY(-10%);
-        transform: translateY(-10%);
+        border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply img {
+        opacity: 1.0;
+        width: 80%;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+	margin: 0px 10%;
         border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
     }
     .buttonevent {
@@ -1986,13 +2008,28 @@ aside .toggle-inside li {
         margin: 1% 3%;
         border-radius: 0%;
     }
+    .timeline-avatar {
+        margin: 0px 0px;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 15%;
+        float: left;
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply {
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 12%;
+        float: left;
+    }
     .timeline-avatar img {
         opacity: 1.0;
-        width: 15%;
-        height: 15%;
+        width: 100%;
         padding: 0px 0px;
-        -ms-transform: translateY(-10%);
-        transform: translateY(-10%);
+        border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply img {
+        opacity: 1.0;
+        width: 80%;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+	margin: 0px 10%;
         border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
     }
     .buttonevent {
diff --git a/epicyon-profile.css b/epicyon-profile.css
index 6269c9fd0..746897e81 100644
--- a/epicyon-profile.css
+++ b/epicyon-profile.css
@@ -885,8 +885,10 @@ input[type=submit]:hover {
 }
 
 .timeline-avatar {
-    margin: 10px auto;
+    margin: 0px 0px;
     padding: 0px 0px;
+    width: 8%;
+    float: left;
 }
 
 .timeline-avatar:hover {
@@ -895,7 +897,8 @@ input[type=submit]:hover {
 
 .timeline-avatar-reply {
     padding: 0px 0px;
-    width: 80%;
+    width: 6%;
+    float: left;
 }
 
 .search-result-text {
@@ -1473,11 +1476,15 @@ h3 {
     }
     .timeline-avatar img {
         opacity: 1.0;
-        width: 8%;
-        height: 8%;
+        width: 100%;
         padding: 0px 0px;
-        -ms-transform: translateY(-10%);
-        transform: translateY(-10%);
+        border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply img {
+        opacity: 1.0;
+        width: 80%;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+	margin: 0px 10%;
         border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
     }
     .buttonevent {
@@ -2228,13 +2235,28 @@ h3 {
         margin-right: 0px;
         border-radius: 0%;
     }
+    .timeline-avatar {
+        margin: 0px 0px;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 15%;
+        float: left;
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply {
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 12%;
+        float: left;
+    }
     .timeline-avatar img {
         opacity: 1.0;
-        width: 15%;
-        height: 15%;
+        width: 100%;
         padding: 0px 0px;
-        -ms-transform: translateY(-10%);
-        transform: translateY(-10%);
+        border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply img {
+        opacity: 1.0;
+        width: 80%;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+	margin: 0px 10%;
         border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
     }
     .buttonevent {
@@ -2988,13 +3010,28 @@ h3 {
         margin-right: 0px;
         border-radius: 0%;
     }
+    .timeline-avatar {
+        margin: 0px 0px;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 15%;
+        float: left;
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply {
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+        width: 12%;
+        float: left;
+    }
     .timeline-avatar img {
         opacity: 1.0;
-        width: 15%;
-        height: 15%;
+        width: 100%;
         padding: 0px 0px;
-        -ms-transform: translateY(-10%);
-        transform: translateY(-10%);
+        border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
+    }
+    .timeline-avatar-reply img {
+        opacity: 1.0;
+        width: 80%;
+        padding: 0px 0px;
+	margin: 0px 10%;
         border-radius: var(--avatar-rounding);
     }
     .buttonevent {
diff --git a/happening.py b/happening.py
index 39bfd350c..bf2ede6b8 100644
--- a/happening.py
+++ b/happening.py
@@ -1276,7 +1276,7 @@ def dav_delete_response(base_dir: str, nickname: str, domain: str,
                           token_post_id)
     delete_post(base_dir, http_prefix,
                 nickname, domain, post_filename,
-                debug, recent_posts_cache)
+                debug, recent_posts_cache, True)
     return 'Ok'
 
 
diff --git a/inbox.py b/inbox.py
index bef69c55c..ef6498d68 100644
--- a/inbox.py
+++ b/inbox.py
@@ -2058,7 +2058,7 @@ def _receive_delete(session, handle: str, is_group: bool, base_dir: str,
         return True
     delete_post(base_dir, http_prefix, handle_nickname,
                 handle_domain, post_filename, debug,
-                recent_posts_cache)
+                recent_posts_cache, True)
     if debug:
         print('DEBUG: post deleted - ' + post_filename)
 
@@ -2069,7 +2069,7 @@ def _receive_delete(session, handle: str, is_group: bool, base_dir: str,
         if post_filename:
             delete_post(base_dir, http_prefix, 'news',
                         handle_domain, post_filename, debug,
-                        recent_posts_cache)
+                        recent_posts_cache, True)
             if debug:
                 print('DEBUG: blog post deleted - ' + post_filename)
     return True
@@ -4094,7 +4094,7 @@ def _inbox_after_initial(server, inbox_start_time,
                 if edited_filename != destination_filename:
                     delete_post(base_dir, http_prefix,
                                 nickname, domain, edited_filename,
-                                debug, recent_posts_cache)
+                                debug, recent_posts_cache, True)
 
             # update the indexes for different timelines
             for boxname in update_index_list:
diff --git a/posts.py b/posts.py
index f21f76cdb..1780999d7 100644
--- a/posts.py
+++ b/posts.py
@@ -4294,7 +4294,7 @@ def archive_posts_for_person(http_prefix: str, nickname: str, domain: str,
                                                        '.json.' + ext))
         else:
             delete_post(base_dir, http_prefix, nickname, domain,
-                        file_path, False, recent_posts_cache)
+                        file_path, False, recent_posts_cache, False)
 
         # remove cached html posts
         post_cache_filename = \
diff --git a/tests.py b/tests.py
index d6c30c06c..7d4e60811 100644
--- a/tests.py
+++ b/tests.py
@@ -3393,11 +3393,14 @@ def test_client_to_server(base_dir: str):
 
     inbox_path = bob_dir + '/accounts/bob@' + bob_domain + '/inbox'
     outbox_path = alice_dir + '/accounts/alice@' + alice_domain + '/outbox'
-    posts_before = \
+    bob_posts_before = \
         len([name for name in os.listdir(inbox_path)
              if os.path.isfile(os.path.join(inbox_path, name))])
+    alice_posts_before = \
+        len([name for name in os.listdir(outbox_path)
+             if os.path.isfile(os.path.join(outbox_path, name))])
     print('\n\nEVENT: Alice deletes her post: ' + outbox_post_id + ' ' +
-          str(posts_before))
+          str(alice_posts_before))
     password = 'alicepass'
     send_delete_via_server(alice_dir, session_alice, 'alice', password,
                            alice_domain, alice_port,
@@ -3408,14 +3411,20 @@ def test_client_to_server(base_dir: str):
         if os.path.isdir(inbox_path):
             test = len([name for name in os.listdir(inbox_path)
                         if os.path.isfile(os.path.join(inbox_path, name))])
-            if test == posts_before-1:
+            if test == bob_posts_before-1:
                 break
         time.sleep(1)
 
     test = len([name for name in os.listdir(inbox_path)
                 if os.path.isfile(os.path.join(inbox_path, name))])
-    assert test == posts_before - 1
-    print(">>> post deleted from Alice's outbox and Bob's inbox")
+    assert test == bob_posts_before - 1
+    print(">>> post was deleted from Bob's inbox")
+    test = len([name for name in os.listdir(outbox_path)
+                if os.path.isfile(os.path.join(outbox_path, name))])
+    # this should be unchanged because a delete post was added
+    # at the outbox and one was removed
+    assert test == alice_posts_before
+    print(">>> post deleted from Alice's outbox")
     assert valid_inbox(bob_dir, 'bob', bob_domain)
     assert valid_inbox_filenames(bob_dir, 'bob', bob_domain,
                                  alice_domain, alice_port)
diff --git a/utils.py b/utils.py
index 3c704fd9f..f5a49d9b4 100644
--- a/utils.py
+++ b/utils.py
@@ -91,6 +91,15 @@ def get_actor_languages_list(actor_json: {}) -> []:
     return []
 
 
+def has_object_dict(post_json_object: {}) -> bool:
+    """Returns true if the given post has an object dict
+    """
+    if post_json_object.get('object'):
+        if isinstance(post_json_object['object'], dict):
+            return True
+    return False
+
+
 def get_content_from_post(post_json_object: {}, system_language: str,
                           languages_understood: [],
                           contentType: str = "content") -> str:
@@ -1610,7 +1619,8 @@ def _is_reply_to_blog_post(base_dir: str, nickname: str, domain: str,
 
 def _delete_post_remove_replies(base_dir: str, nickname: str, domain: str,
                                 http_prefix: str, post_filename: str,
-                                recent_posts_cache: {}, debug: bool) -> None:
+                                recent_posts_cache: {}, debug: bool,
+                                manual: bool) -> None:
     """Removes replies when deleting a post
     """
     replies_filename = post_filename.replace('.json', '.replies')
@@ -1626,7 +1636,7 @@ def _delete_post_remove_replies(base_dir: str, nickname: str, domain: str,
             if os.path.isfile(reply_file):
                 delete_post(base_dir, http_prefix,
                             nickname, domain, reply_file, debug,
-                            recent_posts_cache)
+                            recent_posts_cache, manual)
     # remove the replies file
     try:
         os.remove(replies_filename)
@@ -1794,9 +1804,53 @@ def _delete_conversation_post(base_dir: str, nickname: str, domain: str,
                   str(conversation_filename))
 
 
+def is_dm(post_json_object: {}) -> bool:
+    """Returns true if the given post is a DM
+    """
+    if post_json_object['type'] != 'Create':
+        return False
+    if not has_object_dict(post_json_object):
+        return False
+    if post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'ChatMessage':
+        if post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'Note' and \
+           post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'Page' and \
+           post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'Patch' and \
+           post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'EncryptedMessage' and \
+           post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'Article':
+            return False
+    if post_json_object['object'].get('moderationStatus'):
+        return False
+    fields = ('to', 'cc')
+    for field_name in fields:
+        if not post_json_object['object'].get(field_name):
+            continue
+        for to_address in post_json_object['object'][field_name]:
+            if to_address.endswith('#Public'):
+                return False
+            if to_address.endswith('followers'):
+                return False
+    return True
+
+
+def _is_remote_dm(domain_full: str, post_json_object: {}) -> bool:
+    """Is the given post a DM from a different domain?
+    """
+    if not is_dm(post_json_object):
+        return False
+    this_post_json = post_json_object
+    if has_object_dict(post_json_object):
+        this_post_json = post_json_object['object']
+    if this_post_json.get('attributedTo'):
+        if isinstance(this_post_json['attributedTo'], str):
+            if '://' + domain_full not in this_post_json['attributedTo']:
+                return True
+    return False
+
+
 def delete_post(base_dir: str, http_prefix: str,
                 nickname: str, domain: str, post_filename: str,
-                debug: bool, recent_posts_cache: {}) -> None:
+                debug: bool, recent_posts_cache: {},
+                manual: bool) -> None:
     """Recursively deletes a post and its replies and attachments
     """
     post_json_object = load_json(post_filename, 1)
@@ -1804,7 +1858,7 @@ def delete_post(base_dir: str, http_prefix: str,
         # remove any replies
         _delete_post_remove_replies(base_dir, nickname, domain,
                                     http_prefix, post_filename,
-                                    recent_posts_cache, debug)
+                                    recent_posts_cache, debug, manual)
         # finally, remove the post itself
         try:
             os.remove(post_filename)
@@ -1814,6 +1868,13 @@ def delete_post(base_dir: str, http_prefix: str,
                       str(post_filename))
         return
 
+    # don't allow DMs to be deleted if they came from a different instance
+    # otherwise this breaks expectations about how DMs should operate
+    # i.e. DMs should only be removed if they are manually deleted
+    if not manual:
+        if _is_remote_dm(domain, post_json_object):
+            return
+
     # don't allow deletion of bookmarked posts
     if _is_bookmarked(base_dir, nickname, domain, post_filename):
         return
@@ -1874,7 +1935,7 @@ def delete_post(base_dir: str, http_prefix: str,
     # remove any replies
     _delete_post_remove_replies(base_dir, nickname, domain,
                                 http_prefix, post_filename,
-                                recent_posts_cache, debug)
+                                recent_posts_cache, debug, manual)
     # finally, remove the post itself
     try:
         os.remove(post_filename)
@@ -2769,34 +2830,6 @@ def is_chat_message(post_json_object: {}) -> bool:
     return True
 
 
-def is_dm(post_json_object: {}) -> bool:
-    """Returns true if the given post is a DM
-    """
-    if post_json_object['type'] != 'Create':
-        return False
-    if not has_object_dict(post_json_object):
-        return False
-    if post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'ChatMessage':
-        if post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'Note' and \
-           post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'Page' and \
-           post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'Patch' and \
-           post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'EncryptedMessage' and \
-           post_json_object['object']['type'] != 'Article':
-            return False
-    if post_json_object['object'].get('moderationStatus'):
-        return False
-    fields = ('to', 'cc')
-    for field_name in fields:
-        if not post_json_object['object'].get(field_name):
-            continue
-        for to_address in post_json_object['object'][field_name]:
-            if to_address.endswith('#Public'):
-                return False
-            if to_address.endswith('followers'):
-                return False
-    return True
-
-
 def is_reply(post_json_object: {}, actor: str) -> bool:
     """Returns true if the given post is a reply to the given actor
     """
@@ -3037,15 +3070,6 @@ def user_agent_domain(user_agent: str, debug: bool) -> str:
     return agent_domain
 
 
-def has_object_dict(post_json_object: {}) -> bool:
-    """Returns true if the given post has an object dict
-    """
-    if post_json_object.get('object'):
-        if isinstance(post_json_object['object'], dict):
-            return True
-    return False
-
-
 def get_alt_path(actor: str, domain_full: str, calling_domain: str) -> str:
     """Returns alternate path from the actor
     eg. https://clearnetdomain/path becomes http://oniondomain/path